My husband and I have talked about making “Ask Me About My Husband’s Vasectomy” t-shirts for years. With the Supreme Court striking down Roe v. Wade this week, I decided it was finally time to make them a reality because vasectomies should be part of the conversation. This procedure was one of the best gifts he ever gave me because it gave me to opportunity to go off the contraceptives that were actively hurting my body.
We decided to be the “cool” aunt and uncle instead of having children of our own. Aaron made the appointment and I planned to knit in the waiting room until it was time to take him home. The doctor’s office had other plans for me. A medical assistant fetched me and brought me back to the examining room. While Aaron sat there ready for the procedure, no fewer than 4 different members of the staff came in to ask *me* if I consent to them taking away his fertility. It completely blew my mind that they wanted *my permission* to let them do something to his body. His body! His choice! Apparently there have been lawsuits in the past when the spouse was not informed that their partner was getting a vasectomy.
I had to sit there while they performed the procedure, which meant 10 minutes of trying to focus on my knitting while the doctor made the cut. We went home, and Aaron spent the weekend with a new video game and a bag of frozen peas. The video game cost more than the co-pay for the procedure did. A few days later he was healed up and back to life as usual. No regrets for either of us.
After the Supreme Court decision, Aaron held an informal AMA on social media so folks could ask questions and learn more about his experience with the procedure. I made t-shirts to prompt future conversations about the vasectomy experience.
Want to make your own shirt?
If you’re crafty (or know someone who is) you can use these files to make your own “Ask me about vasectomy” t-shirt.
There are three versions of the graphic:
- Ask me about my vasectomy
- Ask me about my husband’s vasectomy
- Ask me about my partner’s vasectomy
By sharing my graphics, I hope to inspire more conversations like the ones that my husband and I have been having with people about our experience.
The files are provided as is and free to use. You are not allowed to sell them for profit. Totally okay to use them to make products for yourself, friends, or fundraisers.
This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
Each design is in a zipped file that contains an SVG (use for machine cutters like Cricut) and a JPG (use to print on fabric transfer paper).
If you download any of the files, please consider making a donation to Planned Parenthood or NARAL.